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Being a Single Parent

When we think about having children, most of us picture a family with two parents. However, for many people, the reality is that they are the only parent. Although raising a child as a single parent can be challenging, it can also be rewarding. This article offers tips to help single parents raise healthy, happy kids—and stay sane.

Finding Help

You may be a single parent, but you are not alone. Look around you—your family and friends can help. Let them. If you don't have family members or friends nearby, look for a support group for single parents. You'll meet others who are in similar situations, share feelings and get advice.

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Balancing a Busy Life

The life of a single parent can be very busy. You may be juggling work, school and home in addition to parenting. It’s important to find a way to balance all of the parts of your life. Here are some tips:
  • Accept help. When friends and family offer their help, be sure to take it! This can mean having someone play with your child while you run errands, or having someone to call when you need to talk.
  • Take advantage of local resources. Many communities offer play groups, after-school activities and parenting classes. These can give you and your child a chance to have fun, learn and make new friends. You can ask a nurse or social worker in the hospital for some recommendations.
  • If you don’t get enough time with your child, look for creative solutions. Ask if your job lets you work flexible hours, for example.
  • Don’t forget fun. Take a break from your busy routine to plan something special for you and your child. Take a trip to the zoo or go to a movie.
  • Make time for yourself. You need a chance to relax once in a while, too! It can be as simple as taking 15 minutes to look at a magazine when your child is in bed.

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Providing Role Models

Children benefit from good role models—adults who set an example of how to behave—of both sexes. So look for family or friends of the opposite sex to be role models for your child. Invite a positive and responsible family member or friend to spend time with your child. If you don't have a family member or friend available, groups like Big Brothers Big Sisters can help. Check your phone book for programs in your area.

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If It's Too Much …

Parenting is hard work. All parents have times when they get angry or frustrated. But don't take out your feelings on your child. If you are worried that you might hurt your child, get help right away. Call the Childhelp USA 24-hour hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453).

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Source

Written by familydoctor.org editorial staff.

American Academy of Family Physicians

Reviewed/Updated: 07/06
Created: 07/05

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