The best self-care tips for caregivers

Caring for family or friends can be rewarding, but it can also be hard. Sometimes it makes you tired, stressed and sad. Many people who help others feel worried, lonely or burned out. If you spend all your time helping others, you might forget to take care of yourself. But it’s important to care for yourself so you can keep helping others.

A study by the AARP found that more than half of people who care for family say it’s hard to look after their own mental health. About two out of five feel lonely. Even though it’s tough, you need to make time for yourself. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s necessary!

Taking care of yourself is important all year long, but it can be especially challenging during busy times like the holidays. Extra activities, family visits and special events can add more stress to your routine. That’s why it’s helpful to use your self-care skills to manage holiday demands and keep things simple.

1 Take care of your body

Try to get enough sleep, eat healthy foods, and move your body—even a short walk or some stretching can help. Visit your family physician for checkups, vaccinations and if you aren’t feeling well.

2 Pay attention to your feelings

Your feelings are important. Talk to someone you trust about how you feel. Don’t compare yourself to others. It’s okay to feel unsure sometimes. Remember, you’re doing your best!

3 Set limits

Know how much you can do and ask for help when you need it. Build a team of people who can help you care for your loved one. Make sure you save some time for yourself.

4 Watch for changes in yourself

Notice if you start feeling worse or acting differently. Ask family or friends to let you know if they see changes in you.

5 Get support

You don’t have to do everything alone. Join a group for caregivers, either in person or online. Talking to others who understand can help you feel better.

By sharing exactly what you need, you give others a chance to do something meaningful for you. Whether it’s asking someone to listen, help with chores, make a meal, run errands, or give you a break, being clear about your needs makes it easier for others to support you. Don’t be afraid to speak up; asking for help is a sign of strength and can make a real difference in your life.

6 Give yourself grace

Remember, you don’t have to do everything perfectly. Plan ahead and make a list of what’s most important to you and your loved one. It’s okay to say “no” to things that feel too hard or tiring. Keep some fun traditions, but don’t worry if you need to change others. Enjoy simple moments, like sharing a snack or listening to music together. The love you have for each other is the most important thing.